Showing posts with label dating. Show all posts
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Wednesday, October 16, 2024

When a Woman is Heartbroken, It’s more than just emotional pain

When a Woman is Heartbroken, It’s more than just emotional pain—it’s a ripple effect that can influence how she perceives herself and the world around her.

When a woman is heartbroken, she may feel an overwhelming sense of loss, not just for the relationship that ended, but for the future she envisioned. The dreams, the plans, the little moments shared—these vanish, leaving a void that can feel almost unbearable. The tears that fall aren't just for the person who’s left, but for the part of her heart that now feels exposed and fragile.

But in this heartbreak lies a silent strength. Women have an incredible capacity to heal, though the process can be messy and nonlinear. At first, the pain may consume her thoughts. The ache of betrayal, the sting of rejection, or the simple sorrow of something ending can weigh heavy. Yet, over time, she begins to pick up the pieces. Healing often begins with small, quiet steps—finding joy in solitude, rediscovering passions, and reconnecting with the parts of herself that may have been neglected in love.

There is also a deep resilience that surfaces during these moments. A woman who is heartbroken doesn’t remain broken. Through the pain, she learns to understand herself more deeply. She may question her worth, but eventually, she reclaims it, often emerging stronger, wiser, and more certain of what she deserves.

Heartbreak can teach a woman that love, though beautiful, is not the sole definition of her existence. It allows her to redefine love on her own terms—rooted not in external validation but in self-respect, inner peace, and an unshakable belief that she is enough, with or without another’s affection.

In the end, heartbreak is not the end of a woman’s story. It is simply a chapter, one that may hurt deeply, but that ultimately leads her toward growth, empowerment, and a deeper appreciation for her own strength.

Wednesday, March 28, 2012

Dating Tips : Are You 30-Something and Single?

(There’s something about planning a wedding that kinda sorta really manages to take up all my brain space. So sorry for this long sabbatical.)

Just wanted to share what seems like an interesting documentary, albeit controversial for the traditional girl that I am. What do you think folks? Could you find a “happily ever after” without marriage? Do you need to be the “best version of yourself” before you get married? What do you think about being single in your 30s? Did you get married because it’s what society expected of you at a certain age?


Source:http://datingadvicfromagirl.com/are-you-30-something-and-single_1446/#comment-3352

Friday, April 16, 2010

Dating Tips : Are You 30-Something and Single?

(There’s something about planning a wedding that kinda sorta really manages to take up all my brain space. So sorry for this long sabbatical.)

Just wanted to share what seems like an interesting documentary, albeit controversial for the traditional girl that I am. What do you think folks? Could you find a “happily ever after” without marriage? Do you need to be the “best version of yourself” before you get married? What do you think about being single in your 30s? Did you get married because it’s what society expected of you at a certain age?


Source:http://datingadvicfromagirl.com/are-you-30-something-and-single_1446/#comment-3352

Saturday, February 13, 2010

Dating Tips : How to Date More Than One Person WITHOUT Being a Player


I used to think it was weird to date more than one person at a time, since I’ve only experienced serial monogamy.

After reading the awesome book, How to Get a Date Worth Keeping, I actually think it’s not such a bad idea, if you’re honest and clear about what’s going on and don’t lead people on.

Now I realize that for some people, non-exclusive dating, or dating several people can be a great way to date.

It’s a great way to get to know a lot of different people to learn more about the opposite sex, yourself, and basically enrich your life by engaging in regular one-on-one interactions with the opposite sex.


Here’s how to do it without creating drama:


1. Make it clear to everyone you’re dating that you’re not looking for a serious/exclusive relationship at this time. You’re out dating to get to know people…

You want to do this without leading people on. And the way to do that is to be clear about your intent.


2. This piece of advice was from my coworker Ken, who knows from experience how casual dating works: Don’t hang out with them more than once a week, twice MAX.

The reason for this is because people naturally make this association:

time devoted= level of commitment

Even if you don’t verbalize commitment, someone could still get hurt because they will see that you’re spending a lot of time with them. They might come to the conclusion that you are only seeing them. Of course no one should ever make that conclusion without the other party actually saying something about wanting to be exclusive, but people’s natural tendency is to think, “We have something special here,” aka, he/she couldn’t possibly have this same kind of interaction with someone else!


3. Other than mentioning that you are dating casually/non-exclusively to get to know a lot of people, DON’T mention your other dates!

They really don’t need to know any details about any of the other people you are seeing. Make sure they are your focus when you are with them. It’s just good practice, common courtesy, and respect for their feelings.


4. As soon as you realize that someone is no longer a candidate you would consider pursuing an exclusive relationship with after getting to know them better, STOP DATING THEM.

Don’t lead them on. Let them be free to explore their other options. Maybe you’re not that into her. You don’t know what she’s going through. What you do know is that she still wants to see you, so you can guage from that, that there is still a romantic interest. Let her go.

It’s only fair. If you know you would no longer desire to possibly see them exclusively in the future, let them go. If you are a guy, just stop asking the girl out. If you’re a woman, when he asks you out again, just say, “I’m sorry. I don’t want to pursue this any further. You are a great person, and there is a great person out there for you, but I don’t see this moving forward.”

If they ask, “Why?” you don’t have to answer that question. All you have to say is, “I’m sorry. I don’t want to get into it. Good luck though.”

Band aid approach. WAY better than stringing someone along and then dropping them when they’ve already fallen hard for you.
Source: http://datingadvicefromgirl.com

Saturday, April 4, 2009

Dating Tips : Controversial Issues in Relationships - Why Do We Cheat? By Ahmed Malik and Janet Evans

Controversial issues in relationships are basically what we treat. We know about some of these issues and also talk about them each passing day. For others, we don't really concern ourselves with them but they are little poisonous issues that might seem deadly at the end of the day. Why do we cheat? Ladies, do not look at men and point accusing fingers at them because this issue affects both sexes.
After patiently scrutinizing and researching this issue, it was clear that this thing called cheating accounts for 70% of break-ups in relationships. Ladies do not want to share their man with any body and this means ladies flocking around him pose an aura of confusion and suspicion with question such as 'who is she?'' Also, from the part of the woman, in the past, they tend to find it a big deal to maintain two or more boy friends although these days it is as if they are born to play on men's intelligence or rather, date more than a man at a time. Some say cheating cannot be helped basically because it seem like it is hereditary or inborn. Others say it is greed, mere greed on the cheater. In the course of my research on the subject, I came across a good analysis of why we cheat. It is derived from a movie titled 'why did I get married'? It bases its argument on the issues of 'want' and 'need'. The following are the exceptions:
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you need and you will hardly get the other 20% that you want in your relationship. There is always another person [man or woman] that you will meet who will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship, and believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship. But the problem is that you will always end up with having the 20% that you want and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. This mistake is mainly done by woman, letting go of the 80% because of the 20%. Usually , the 20% needed includes money, more outing, and craziness (because good girls love bad boys and bad boys are the ones with flavor and experience) while men attribute the 20% to lack of sex, more sex, present-ability of his lady, dressing and appearance, to mention a few.
Mostly, cheating happens when you start looking for what you don't have. "WOW, this girl in my office is really hot but it's not her features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she also understanding, intelligent, tender. So many things that my spouse is not". Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive, more alluring, more thoughtful, richer, have greater sex appeal... and you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and will look over you more than your spouse ever did. This is because no wife or husband is perfect, because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So, cheating takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing20%. Because your wife or spouse is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling your sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil - cut shirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet a big time extrovert who has the makings of a talk show host. But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have or does it look advisable to throw away the 80% that you already have?
Apart from the issue of want and need, distance is also a cause. Some relationships crumble because of distance. When comfort is needed and your spouse is nowhere, when good company is need; when the good and sexy times are a memory and re-living it is a wish, when urges come into place and your spouse is nowhere around to quench the fire... solace will now be found in the person who keeps you in good company in the absence of your boo. Some also put trust as an excuse even in the distance. "Well I don't know what he is doing at the moment wherever he is. So let me enjoy my time" or "only God knows if she is faithful to me alone or she is flirting" are some of the questions that open doors to cheating.
This thing called cheating has eaten into the fabric of relationship that even in some marriages, such still happens. Then where does the beauty of relationship lie? Why does it have to be so? The deed has been done; it is the way forward that needs to be brought forward and quick before more harm is done.
Working on the issue of want and need and having a basis that is more to be lost if the relationship fizzles out might help. Add to your spouse's 80% to make the 100% that represents what you wish to have in your dream relationship having in mind the good times spent together; the unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple, the many adjustments you have made to love the other: the wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers... Cheating sets in when you start looking for what you don't have. Be faithful and thankful for what you already have. Trust more and drill your spouse to know what he/she needs that you lack in your trivial. It is really a need and not a trivia. Be contented with what you have. Share and don't compare yours to others. Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? Oh, they have got more leg room; oh my god their food is so different from ours; their seats recline at an 80 degree angle and they've got personal videos; do you know that there are many first class Passengers who are miserable in first class because they are not riding in a private Lear jet?
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class, 20/80 or 80/20. you determine your lot in your relationship and life. Enjoy what you have or share and be happy about it because when it is out of your hands....you know the rest!!!
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Monday, March 2, 2009

How Hot Women Test Men They Date and Why - Part 1 by David_DeAngelo

In my opinion, most women, especially the ‘hotties’, have gone through a learning curve here in our western culture that has on average given them a sort of ‘predictable psychological makeup’. Now, there are differences between these women… some are smart, some are not… some are tall, some are short… some are cerebral, some are physical… etc. etc. etc… but there are things that most of them have in common. I’ve made a study of these things… because this is what interests me.
At some point in their lives, hotties began to be treated differently because they were attractive. I mentioned the social psychology concept earlier called ‘The Halo Effect’. Simply stated, attractive people are assumed to be smarter, more honest, more trustworthy, etc. than others. The fact that people do whatever the hottie wants begins to blur their sense of reality and makes them believe that they can have whatever they want whenever they want it… AND THAT’S JUST THE WAY LIFE IS. (This applies in general.)
You’ll notice that many super-hotties will throw tantrums if they don’t like what’s going on or aren’t getting their way… this is a sure sign that they are not living in the same reality as most people… when they don’t get what they want, they get upset because this has worked since they were little…
Now, on a subconscious level, I’ve noticed that most hot women realize that they are being ridiculous when they act like bitches, throw tantrums, etc. but it doesn’t really matter because it still WORKS for them when they want what they want… are you with me?
Underneath all of this behavior, they are still FEMALE and they are looking for what other females are also looking for…
What are women looking for?
Well, for the record, I have no idea. After 30 years of studying people, Freud said that there was one question that he didn’t have the answer to… “What do women want?” Nice.
BUT, here’s my take on it: First and foremost, they want a man who is in CONTROL (of the situation, himself, his emotions, other people, her… control of the entire reality that they share).
Let me ask you, if you were a woman who wanted to test a man to see if he will stay in control, how would you do it? Would you ask the man, “If I get out of hand, will you spank me and put me in my place?”
NO WAY!!!
So they test us by CHALLENGING us to see if we’ll stay in control. The reason I do all of this “Never give a woman a direct answer… unless it’s NO… Never give a woman exactly what she wants…” etc. is, ironically, to give her what she REALLY wants… a man who’s in control. Women want a challenge. Think romance novel themes… if you don’t know what I’m talking about, sit yourself down for a week and read Dangerous Men and Adventurous Women by Jayne Krentz… How to Succeed With Women By Being A Jerk by F.J. Shark… Endless Rapture by Helen Hazen… and Bad Boys by Margie Palatini… and think about it.
Double Your Dating - What Every Man Should Know About How To Be Successful With Women. David DeAngelo will show you the secrets that most men will never know about women. Improve your dating with David's dating tips and dating advice.

Source: http://www.articlealley.com/article_563248_35.html

Thursday, February 26, 2009

When Dating Is Dangerous By Amy Dickinson

One of the ironies of parenting is how we seem destined to be clueless about our teenagers. Here we are, entwined in this most intimate relationship with our very own children, yet teens seem to live in another world--one with nonstop Internet access and encyclopedic knowledge of song lyrics. When teens start dating, they lurch back and forth between their private agonies and joys, and mask their problems and heartaches with arguments about learner's permits and lip gloss. We parents wait up nights and cross our fingers, hoping our kids will make it to adulthood unscathed. Unfortunately, many of them don't.

A recent study by the Harvard School of Public Health highlights how perilous adolescence can be, especially for girls. The comprehensive study of 1,977 high school girls shows that 1 in 5 reports being a victim of physical or sexual violence in a dating relationship. Girls reported being "hit, slapped, shoved or forced into sexual activity" by dates. Since this is the first study of its kind, it's not clear whether such abuse is on the rise, but Dr. Jay Silverman, author of the report, called the numbers "extremely high."

As the mother of an adolescent girl lucky enough to come of age in the era of "girl power," the statistics make me wonder if, with all of our messages about empowerment and sexual openness, we've forgotten to tell our daughters that they're still vulnerable when they're with someone bigger and stronger. Laura Sessions Stepp, who spent a year interviewing teens for her book Our Last Best Shot, isn't surprised by statistics showing a high incidence of violence on dates. "Girls in high school talk a lot about the pressure to have sex," she says, "and I wonder if 'girl power' makes them think they can handle situations they're not ready for." Sara Stillman, 17, author of Soul Searching, a book for high school girls, thinks the pressure and status of having a boyfriend early can propel girls into unhealthy relationships.

Since many girls won't tell their moms and dads about dating violence, parents should be on the lookout for signs of depression, such as changes in eating and sleeping habits, or an increase in violent outbursts. Experts in youth violence prevention say parents need to talk explicitly to kids well before they reach dating age, teaching them that all violence is unacceptable and to demand respect in their friendships. Parents should know their teens' friends and encourage going out in groups. If they suspect a problem, parents should try to find someone--a counselor or adult friend--their girls will talk to. And, notes Silverman, "we can't accept that boys will be boys. We need to intervene with boys, to hold them accountable for what they are doing."

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Tuesday, February 24, 2009

13 Types of Girls you should Avoid

In general, men are looking first for physical attraction at a woman.
Many of them consider that if she is beautiful and well dressed, its
the perfect partner they are looking for. But they don't know that
behind this appearance its hiding something worst.
Maybe this happened to you too. After you began a relationship with her
you found out that she is not exactly what you want and what you
expect. She hurt you and dumped you when you last expected. Many men
are chasing after a woman who lied them and used them. But, in order to
stop this, you should know from the beginning which types of girls you
should avoid for to not be hurt again.

Desperate girl
-it is the type of the girl who spend all her life laid out, looking
for a perfect life, and suddenly she discover that she gets old and she
doesn't get married yet because she hasn't met the perfect man for her
-she wants desperately to get married no matter who the guy is or what
he does
-she is pressed by the time and is ready to marry with a jerk as long
as he has marriage material
-watch out because if you marry one of this, you have to spend the
rest of your life with her

Materialistic girl
-usually is good looking and well dressed
-is looking very well outside but inside it is a bunch of money hungry
taker
-she is looking all the time after boys which are staying very well
with their wallet
-she expects that a man should finance her entire life just because she
is biologically female
-she is very friendly, nice at the beginning but after some time you'll
see that no matter how much you give her, she wants more
-she is greed personified
-she is interested only in what she wants and not others feelings
-stay away from this kind of girl because she will dumped you after she
spend all your money

Angry girl
-she is the type of the girl which sees life like a battle
-anything what is happening or is told to her is seen as a insult at
her address
-has also a bad opinion about man, sees only the wrong sides of a man
-she is always upset and angry
-usually she likes to take out of context everything what is said to
her and to interpret the words like she wants
-you don't have any future with her, she has a simmering anger at men
which can explode at any moment

Insecure girl
-she is very nice and treats men very well
-but she suffers by frustration
-is wracked by anxiety about making the wrong decision
-she has to think twice about what to do, what to wear, where to go,
what to eat
-she needs constant reassurance that she's attractive and worries
incessantly

Stupid girl
-this type of girl likes to speak a lot but she doesn't say nothing
smart
-she likes to say always gossips about the others, but when you want to
talk something important with her, she is not able to make conversation

Uptown girl
-she is very rich
-everything she has is better than yours and she wants to make sure
that you know it
-she only dates the best of best
-is entirely focused on herself
-she is very selfish, self-indulgent grown up as '' daddy's little
girl''
-needs to be constant center of attention no matter what she does or
where she goes

Childish girl
-everything in life hurts this kind of girl
-is the type of girl who cries a lot, every innocent comment or
criticism will upset her
-avoid this kind of girl because if you are dating one you will have to
spend all the time apologizing even if you didn't make any mistake
-avoid also long term relationship with her because she is capable of
suicide if you want to leave her and all the blame will be thrown on
yourself

Elusive girl
-is the type of girl who is afraid to start a relationship
-she might be hurt in a past relationship and so subconsciously avoids
or sabotages new relationships in the present
-she look interested at the beginning but after a while she runs away
-is the type of girl who likes to send mixed messages so you'll never
understand her

Talking girl
-it is a big difference between somebody who is able to make good
conversation and have sense of humor , and somebody who always have to
make a comment about everything
-it is the type which is very hard to please and always has to say
something about everything is happening or speaking around her

Romantic girl
-this lives in her own world, of movies and romance novels
-she is very dreamy, imagining things, expecting Prince Charming to
come after her
-she doesn't know how the real world is
-she was grown with the idea that she is a princess

Dragger girl
-this kind of girl will always make you feel bad even there is no
reason to feel that
-it is always worrying and she can never be happy, everything around
her is a total drag
-even if a wonderful thing happen to you, she will make you feel like
it was the worst thing that could happen ever

Controlling girl
-she likes to have the total control in your relationship and on you
too
-wants to control you in everything you do, you wear or eat
-if you try to control her too, she will get angry, cry, scream or use
any deceptive female tactic until you give up

Flirting girl
-she flirts with anybody and flaunt her sexuality at every opportunity
-has a big power of attraction
-exist the risk to dump you in any moment if somebody better comes
along
With all these types of girls you should avoid, it is now more easy for
you to make a good choice about your next girlfriend; but remember
that not all the women are the same, maybe there is somewhere a good,
carrying woman just for you.

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Saturday, February 21, 2009

Who Has the Dating Power - Men or Women?

If you ever find yourself dating the kind of woman who believes she has sexual power over men and she suddenly finds herself in the 'one down' position in the relationship, she will usually try in all sorts of ways to sneak but up to the one-up position. Note: This means you are on the right track and she is enjoying herself. Don't stuff it up. Some examples of her trying to regain the one up position:- Playing mind games (e.g. not returning your calls or messages for hours or days even though you know she has nothing else to do, or is the type to respond to messages straight away).- Wearing flattering clothes and mentioning that other guys are checking her out.- Acting unimpressed with the things that you do (i.e. trying to get you to do more to impress her).- Creating situations where you rely on her (e.g. she's the designated driver for the night, but keeps you waiting by arriving late. You move in together and share rent, etc).- Making you fall in love with her and then becoming a little distant so you chase her even more.If you buckle under those sorts of tests, the woman will gain more and more of the 'silent dating power' and her attraction and interest in you may naturally diminish. Suddenly, you may find yourself behaving like she had been previously (i.e. trying to get yourself back to the 'one up' position). You might find yourself trying harder to impress her, to spark certain feelings or to get her attention. However, you must hold your ground. At a deep level, she will appreciate it if you can keep her interested by not falling for her instinctive attempts to test your masculinity.Better yet, don't even play with her tantrum. For example: A woman is throwing a little tantrum because you didn't call her the night before.Her: (In an angry, paranoid tone) Why didn't you call me last night?You: (Chuckling) Hehe...you're cute. Hey, I've gotta tell you something... I just made the best stir-fry ever...if you're nice I'll save you some. Her: Cool, but hey... why didn't you call me?You: C'mon, don't be silly. How was your day today? Tell me about something good that happened...If you do find yourself in the one-down position in terms of the dating power, you may also find yourself wanting to give a woman more compliments. So, here's some tips on that topic. A genuine compliment is something that we rarely forget. A compliment out of supplication is something we often ignore as meaningless, or even resent.Man: Wow, you are so beautiful.Woman: Thanks, you're so sweet.That may look like a positive interaction to some of you, but in reality it equals nothing if the woman doesn't feel attraction for you, or if you're trying to suck up to her. You can compliment a woman on anything you like, but make sure that she is attracted to you first. Here are some great examples of how to compliment a woman:You: Hey, I like your dress sense.Her: (Says something).You: Yeah, it's stylish (trendy/cool/funky or whatever else you want to say)....I like girls who dress like that...You: Hey, you have nice teeth.Her: (Says something).You: I like nice teeth...You: I think you're really sexyHer: (Usually flattered and can't believe you had the balls to say it.)Complimenting too early: Do the right thing by her and don't be another guy who comes along babbling out compliment after compliment, or demonstrates that he will offer no challenge.The best time to give a woman a compliment: Feel free to reward good behavior with a compliment when a woman says something witty, does something nice for you, etc. Despite what women may say, they generally prefer a man who will make them work for it. For example: You've been talking to a woman for a little while. She is being really friendly, flirty and responsive and says something funny. Start laughing quietly to yourself and have a private little moment.Her: What?You: I just noticed something about you.Her: What?You: You're actually quite funny (or cute, or whatever you want to say about her). I like that.But remember that you can't get too predictable with women, or they'll lose interest. Sometimes, you should playfully tease a woman for doing nice things or saying something cool. Sometimes you should compliment her.


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Friday, February 13, 2009

How to get your boyfriend back on Valentine's day and re-ignite your love.

For those planning on spending Valentines Day in pain, you CAN do some simple things which are sure to make your guy forgive you and have your phone ringing late night for sure.
Get His Green Glands Going by following this steps:
Going to a Val occassions, Singles Bash and Letting Loose: (where you KNOW He's got friends or family nearby)Almost every city, large, small or otherwise has one of these.These are often the very best ways to showcase your single hood and turn his night into a nightmare when he hears where you are. Although, it is not nice, but jealousy is the very strongest hot emotional button you need to be prepared to push to get him back. This works Absolutely!

Just try and disappear for 3 or 4 Days In advance.This is a great way to get him curious and then envious again! Just go incognito for a few days.You can Visit that sister who lives out of town, take a little overdo road trip or simply take the phone off the hook and don't answer your phone calls. Even when he makes statement like, I don't care what he says, the chances are he's still got feelings for you. Keeping him off guard completely. Being unprepared for what you're doing is a top secret, but very successful strategy to getting an unexpected knock on the door when you least expect it.


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Wednesday, January 21, 2009

Self confidence as it relates to dating.

For a long lasting dating or marriage relationship, one should have genuine belief in oneself no matter the problem. If it sound like it is easy to do, how many of us truly believe in ourselves? It is not about being conceited and boastful nor something more humble and sincere. Having genuine beliefs in our-selves encompass the following:

1. Self-Confidence
2. Knowing Yourself
3. Knowing Your Strengths
4.Loving Yourself
5. Standing Up For Yourself
6. Recognizing Your Weaknesses
7. Standing Up For What You Believe In

With all these at the back of your heart, there is nothing stopping you from excelling in your relationship.

Tuesday, January 20, 2009

10 Golden Rules For Successful Dating

As everyone knows, the favourite method of mating and dating for singletons the world over is to join an online dating site. But what most people don't realise is that only around 10% of dating site members actually meet a long-term partner on their chosen site and a whopping 70% don't even receive one message from another member. If you follow the 10 simple steps outlined below, you too can join the 10% who find love and romance on line.
1. Choose the right site. The boom in online dating has provided a plethora of choice for consumers but you should take a few moments to decide on the type of partner you're looking for, not to mention the town or city where you would prefer him/her to be located. There are niche sites which cater to all sectors (single parents, bikers, gay people etc) and general sites which welcome all comers just as there are city or country specific sites and sites with a global perspective. Choosing the right site for you is probably the most important decision you'll make when looking for a partner on line.
2. Choose a great username. First impressions always last and the on line identity which you give yourself is the first thing that other members will see before they check-out your profile. 'Funny' works, 'cryptic' works and you wont go far wrong even if you decide to use your own christian name; but if you go down the smutty or sexually suggestive route (which a lot of guys seem to do), you'll find that other members will give you a wide berth.
3. Upload a photo. This is crucial as a significant percentage of people only search for members who have bothered to include a pic; you want to see what other members look like so it stands to reason that other people will feel the same way about you. If the only photo you have isn't particularly flattering, you can always mention that in your profile - it's still better than no photo at all.
4. Complete your profile. There's nothing more off-putting than a profile which screams "I can't be bothered to do this properly". If you don't have time to complete all the categories when you are signing-up, then make the time to do so at the earliest opportunity.
5. Be upbeat and positive. If you're feeling a little down or lacking in confidence, now isn't the time to say so when you're writing a description of yourself. If you come across as confident, happy and full of fun, you'll get much more attention than if you come across as mono-syllabic or down in the dumps. And remember, humour is a real ice-breaker and a great aphrodisiac.
6. Widen your search criteria. If you generally go for people who have blonde hair, blue eyes and are between 5'4" and 5'6" and you narrow your search down to just these specifics, then you may be missing out on a great many other members who you'll also find just as attractive. To start with, just search by gender, age and location and that way you'll be giving yourself the widest possible choice.
7. Don't automatically dismiss people. If you receive a message from someone who's profile you like but who hasn't bothered to include a photo, you should still write back and ask them to send a pic to your regular email address. You'll find that many people are more willing to do this than post a pic for all and sundry to look at.
8. Use all the features on offer. Many sites provide a great deal more than just an internal emailing system. Some sites might include voice messaging whilst others enable members to chat and flirt in 'real time' with other members and the more you take advantage of everything that's available to you, the more chance you have of making contact with someone special.
9. Be proactive. Once you've registered and completed your profile, don't wait for others to make contact with you. When you spot someone who you think might be a good fit with yourself, write to them and introduce yourself. And don't just say 'Hi, I like your profile', tell them why you've written to them and point out the things that you believe you have in common. A long opening message will create a much better impression than a short, perfunctory one.
10. Check back with the site. Most popular dating sites have new people joining all the time so remember to log-in at least once every day to view the most recent members and you can then contact anyone you like the look of before others get the chance to do so. Also, you should remember that on most sites, the members who log-in the most appear higher up the search listings than those who don't so your profile will be easier to spot by people with whom you might be compatible.
So there you have it - successful online dating is not rocket science; it just takes a bit of thought and a bit of effort and if you adhere to the 10 rules that I have outlined above, then your personal life will soon receive the kick-start it deserves.

Thursday, January 15, 2009

4 things to make a woman date a poor man.

There are 4 things a man should have that would make women to run after him without necessarily being rich.These four qualities are being looked for in a man by women.They are completely different from any other of the obvious attraction factors like money and looks.

These qualities are :
1.Confidence: This is always the ability to tell that woman what you want and how you want it.It ranges from confidence in demanding for sex and be straight to the point in all issues.The woman wants and respect the man who understands her body.

2.Charisma: A man should be charismatic in all things, being able to make fun, jokes, make the woman laugh when she is angry, and know exactly how to handle situations of all kinds.The man should create time for social activities as well. He should be able to act and make fun. These are what makes a man sexy!

3.Character - The man should have the quality that will warrant you to bring him home to your parents.

4. The man should be strong and healthy: He should be able to satisfy the woman sexually.

With perfection in all these qualities,the woman will always be ready to spend for the man. He will always bear what ever condition comes.

Saturday, January 10, 2009

Ten Dating Safety Tips For Online And Offline

Still looking for a special someone? Just be sure to keep yourself safe. Here are ten ways to find love for your heart but keep your personal protection on your mind.

1. Watch out for someone who seems too good to be true. Begin by communicating solely by email, then look for odd behavior or inconsistencies. The person at the other end may not be who or what he says he is. Trust your instincts. If anything makes you uncomfortable, walk away for your safety and protection.

2. Make sure all contact on a member site takes place through a double-blind system, ensuring your true identity is protected until you decide to reveal it. Never include your last name, home address, phone number, place of employment, email address or any other identifying information in your profile or initial messages. When corresponding with someone, turn off your email signature file. Stop communicating with anyone who puts pressure on you for personal information or attempts in any way to trick you into revealing it.

3. Cautious decisions will result in a better dating experience. Be sure to protect yourself against trusting the untrustworthy; potential boyfriends must earn your trust gradually over time, through consistently honorable, straightforward behavior. Take all the time you need to investigate for a straightforward person and pay careful attention along the way. If you suspect someone is lying, he probably is, so act accordingly. Be responsible about romance, your heart will thank you. Don’t become prematurely intimate with someone, even if that intimacy only occurs online. If you mutually decide to cross the point of no return, be smart and protect yourself. The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (http://www.cdc.gov/ ) provide some of the most current information available about sexually transmitted diseases and preserving your health.

4. Most online dating services do not require members to submit to background checks. So make sure you get as much info as possible by asking questions, utilizing internet search engines and most importantly, using common sense. Nothing is 100% reliable, just remember to use your head…not just your heart.

5. A photo will give you a good idea of the person’s appearance, which may prove helpful in achieving a gut feeling. In fact, it’s best to view several images of someone in various settings: casual, formal, indoor and outdoors. If all you hear are excuses about why you can’t see a photo, consider that he has something to hide.

6. A phone call can reveal much about a person’s communication and social skills. Consider your security and do not reveal your phone number to a stranger. Try a cell phone number instead or use local telephone blocking techniques to prevent your phone number from appearing on a Caller ID. Give out your phone number ONLY when you feel completely comfortable.

7. The beauty of meeting someone online is that you can collect information gradually, later choosing whether to pursue the relationship in the offline world. You never are obligated to meet anyone, regardless of your level on online intimacy. And even if you decide to arrange a meeting, you always have the right to change your mind. It’s possible that your decision to keep the relationship anonymous is based on a hunch that you can’t logically explain. Trust yourself. Go with your instincts

8. Pay attention to displays of anger, intense frustration or attempts to pressure or control you. Acting in a passive-aggressive manner, making demeaning or disrespectful comments or any physically inappropriate behavior are all red flags. You should be concerned if your date exhibits any of the following behavior without providing an acceptable explanation: Provides inconsistent information about age, interests, appearance, marital status, profession, employment, etc. Refuses to speak to you on the phone after establishing ongoing, online intimacy. Fails to provide direct answers to direct questions. Appears significantly different in person from his or her online persona. Never introduces you to friends, professional associates or family members.

9. When you choose to meet offline, always tell friends where you are going and when you will return. Leave your date's name and telephone number with a friend. Never arrange for your date to pick you up at home. Provide your own transportation, meet in a public place at a time with many people around (a familiar restaurant or coffee house is often a good choice), and when the date is over, leave on your own as well. Refrain from drinking excessively, as it could weaken your ability to make good decisions. If at some point you and your date decide to move to another location, take your own car. When the timing is right thank your date for getting together and say goodbye

10. If you plan to fly in from another city, arrange for your own car and hotel room. Do not make known the name of your hotel and never allow your date to make arrangements for you. Get a rental car at the airport and drive directly to your hotel. Always call your date from the hotel. You can also check out the location you both agreed to meet at ahead of time to see exactly where it is and to get more familiar with an area . If the location seems inappropriate or unsafe, go back to your hotel. Try to contact your date at that location or leave a message on an answering machine. Always make sure a friend or family member knows your plans and has your contact information. And carry a cell phone at all times.

Never do anything you feel unsure about. If you are in any way afraid of your date, use your best judgment to diffuse the situation and get out of there. Excuse yourself long enough to call a friend for advice, ask someone else on the scene for help or slip out the back door and drive away. If you feel you are in danger, call the police; it’s always better to be safe than sorry. Never worry or feel embarrassed about your behavior; your safety is much more important than one person’s opinion of you.

While cheaters, liars and frauds certainly can be very convincing on the Web, you’ll also find them in nightclubs and offline dating services, parties or even sitting across from you at your local coffee house. Despite where you meet someone, dating is never risk-free, but a little caution will reduce your risk to your safety when trying to find that certain someone for your heart.

Friday, December 26, 2008

40 usefulness of sex

1. Sex as a sedative. It helps you have good sleep.
2. Sex helps against addictions. It helped a lot of people quit smoking
3. Sex act as laxative. Regular sex helps you have regular shits.
4. Sex to get to know somebody very well. You can tell a lot about a person by fucking them.
5. Sex helps in meditation.
6. Sex helps to relive boredom.
7. Sex helps to improve concentration.
8. Sex help to make money.
9. Sex to create magic. Some witches believe that that the most powerful time to cast a spell is during orgasm.
10. Sex helps for manipulation. It can get you what you want.
11. Sex as a reward. Either to yourself or to someone else.
12. Sex helps in relaxation.
13. Sex for rejuvenation. It keeps you looking and feeling younger.
14. Sex helps to increase energy. A great pick-me-up.
15. Sex to cure an asthma attack.It keep the patient in the proper mood.
16. Sex to make you laugh. It can be hilarious.
17. Sex as a gift. A present for birthdays, anniversaries, Bar
18. Sex helps to get high.
19. Sex helps to achieve an altered state.
20. Sex helps to create life.
21. Sex helps waking up. Helps get rid of that groggy feeling.
22. Sex helps to cure back pain.
23. Sex helps to keep warm in the winter.
24. Sex helps to kill pain . It's far more potent than aspirin, and most prescription pain killers.
25. Sex as an anti-depressant. It will cheer you up.
26. Sex for stress reduction.
27. Sex act as a spiritual exercise.
28. Sex for exercise. It's aerobic and burns calories.
29. Sex as a means for thrills and adventure.
30. Sex to relive headaches. Even migraines.
31. Sex is a cure for writer's block.
32. Sex is a good deed. Give the needy an occasional mercy fuck.
33. Sex as an art form. It can be very creative and a great way to express oneself.
34. Sex to control appetite. It can be so filling.
35. Sex for cardiovascular health.
36. Sex to create intimacy.
37. Sex acts as an expression of love.
38. Sex for itching mosquito bites. Apply your own sperm to affected areas.
39. Sex act as a means for barter. Trade it for all kinds of things.
40. Sex helps to get in touch with emotions, like sadness.

Saturday, December 20, 2008

Guide to asking someone out on a date

1. Make an introduction of yourself to the person you've been/you are admiring.

2. Collect the person phone number by just telling him/her that you would want to meet him/her

3.Try and give him/her a call at a date that is not intrusive. Call when you are comfortable with this, no matter what your friends can say about the right to time to call.

4. Re-introduce yourself once on the phone saying something like, 'Hey, this is Don. We met at the bus stop. "

5. Implore little pretense as possible (ideally none), ask the person if he or she would like to get together for a cup of tea or do something similarly casual. If you are politely refused, take the hint and get off the phone.

6. Meet casually for a short period of time - half an hour. If this goes well, suggesting a more formal date and time for lunch is important for more discussion.

7. Disclose your intention. Try to be your self and be natural.

Tuesday, December 2, 2008

How to get happier in your marriage.

You can lose that loving feeling? Are you married and sad? Men and women need answers, the men should women want and need the love ... May we wish, you need more love in our lives.

When two people decide to hold together, it's because you hope that people will be able to fulfill their wishes. They want to feel safe and secure, loved and desired, romanced and respected. We all have the quality, but sometimes we just probably will be things for granted and lose appreciation for what really matters. (The distribution of love!) Lets get back on the right track. Spark of fire, to improve the romance, and is seasoned. For sure, you are very pleased. Do not be a man without love or looking for love ... Answers to these questions.

Want more passion and romantic relationship? You want more happiness and love in your life and your marriage? Want more satisfying and fulfilling marriage?

If you ever wondered any of these questions you need to access the search and get more love, joy and prosperity in life and in your marriage.

How do you develop all the qualities that creates love to make your life happier and healthier? Means love, care and for the benefit of ourselves and others to share the good times and difficult times, sharing our thoughts and hearts. How can love more? They have all to me. Way. You can have a more loving, worried, sharing, and love, better relationships, more fun and more happiness in your relationship. Pakawalan mo siya ang mga matugunan Hamon, bukod sa kapwa ay maaaring magtagumpay.

Why not take responsibility for your life and your marriage, in practice the things that you know is more than ¡¡§ ¨ good life?

Deep inside you have power, so you can discover and use to everything you dreamed, or you could imagine.

Go for it! You can do this! Art is the best!

Do you favor and start now ... Love is a beautiful thing ... We should all want, need love and attention. Married people need to stay happily married.

Where to Meet a Hot Babe

A hot babe is a girl who is very interesting and actractive. Worldwide, you will find many Hot Babes. When you try to find the word hot on the Internet, you will find women who are adult entertainers. The Internet is one stop shop for entertainment, you'll get to see not stop the action that will make you very happy. If you want to meet real hot babe to date, or for fun, there are many places you can go to. First, start by asking yourself you consider the heat. Heat will mean different things to different people. This is because many have different preferences when it comes to beauty. For example, you will find the love of women and people of more slender women. There are guys who prefer a certain hair color. This is really your choice, which will come to judge what's hot and what is not. This only proves that beauty lies in the eyes of spectators. Therefore, when you see the kind of beauty that you want, you can begin to consider steps to meet these women.

Start at the local entertainment joints. In these places, people to interact and free, you can manage to create a connection with very attractive women who are hot. Entertainment venues, including bars, clubs, exhibitions, events, film, theater and the list goes on. There are people who have met specific people in the park. Therefore, as you through your life, making each face the possibility of love and affection. This is when you discover the depth of love. You will find a person who is very interesting, you can explore your feelings with. If you have problems finding the perfect girl is hot, do not stop here. Match Makers are in place for precisely this reason. You can do your job very easy. It is important that you consider the most convenient way to matchmaking for you. There are many possibilities, and if you have people who like speed, speed dating is for you. This is where you participate in a speed date. They are a bit dated, which takes a short period, which ranged from 4 to 5 minutes.

When your time runs out, you move to the next. Date is an event held by the Agency speed dating, and they play host to a number of singles per night. When you approach a speed dating service, you will be notified of the requirements and costs. You will be asked to speed up the date, there will be people who may be in accordance with the compliance status. It is important that you participate each invited to bring forward the date you. If you fail, information and services, they will be able to fix another date for your speed. Another popular is the betel-line match maker. It is not only cheap and convenient, but he will be proved very effective for you. You will meet all the hot men, you want to meet in the comfort of your room. This is an opportunity to meet people from around the world. At this age, there is no reason for you to be one

Tips for dating an older woman

An elderly woman is more mature. This is especially so when it comes to dating. More and more young men go to an older woman for these and a number of reasons. If you have a young boy looking to meet and date an older woman, you need some tips of your sleeves, so you can be successful in this regard. Here are some of the things you must do, so you can win hearts of women. You must first gentleman. I can not dwell on this more. Is a gentleman will ensure that you have all the pitfalls that many young men are often. Like all women, older women want to be treated with the utmost respect. It will be shown to be special and important. For this reason, when you are a gentleman, you were able to women from the feet with very little effort. It is essential to ensure that you are sincere in this regard. Be false will only lead to a broken relationship, even before you start. The second reason that you should know is that you do not have to go for yourself. This means that you must let the relationship evolve naturally. Older women have more experience when it comes to dating. Therefore, it is not an option. They control all the intricacies of dating, and you do not have new information. You can only bring virtues as honesty to the table for them to be really impressed. The second thing, but dating these women calm. Caution will ensure that your focus. There are times when you are excited, but you have to maintain a relative peace, because you want to get so ripe. Another thing that boys will be the charm. Charm is what you need most. A smile and eye contact best shows your charm. Everyone wants to be around someone who is charming and pleasant reception. Another way to charming is to make sure you pay attention to all the things they say. Listen to her passion and interests. Showing enthusiasm will only earn you points when it comes to the elderly woman. The second thing you should do is not to focus on looks. Older women are more aware of how they look. Therefore, be sure to give compliments and steer clear of their physical appearance. There are so many women who look good, even when they are older. But the best is just too full of compliments. The goal of the day is having fun and thinking too much involved with this. Therefore keep it simple and make sure you enjoy yourself all the way through. You do not have to think about serious stuff, keep it very light and friendly. You will not go wrong with this.

Monday, December 1, 2008

Know when it's time to end a relationship

Here again. It began with the silent treatment during the two decided to join the others. It is curious that there are special reasons for them. It seems that we have the idea, at the same time. And now is very trendy. The two, which is also a little "benefit, hoping desperately that the other person feel the consequences of their displeasure peace.

Then the conversation enforced. Something for the two of them most imports SONO examinéemaiso you ready to brevcom and concise sentences with little or no accompaniment. Feel funds by scattering his teeth, that their answers. Any response from you or your partner is that you also Angri. They are not really understand why, but the real.

Well, the explosion of the two of you. Who has room to leave the light on, why are we in this restaurant, play your music so high? At least two of you must be prepared to Yun doozy an argument. The parece have more and more intense. Kiss and Make-up? Forget that sound.

Sometimes, when a leader of the South, is really only one question from each other space to recharge the battery and the other with a new perspective. Other times? This is a clear indicator that the relationship is a break.

There is really nothing in this life, is set in stone and the relationship peccatod some of them. One thing is SKYquiere with endless love, tomorrow is war. You do not know whether they are
headed for a pause or even want, but something happens and you have some questions.

1st Release?

Many relationships, whether married or durcheine phase, where it seems that every person shall not be in society. It takes a few hours, days or even longer, but the couple has no ritirares and even closer than ever before. Are you and your role at this point? If yes, how long it was? A meso Most, but not a good sign.

2nd Apathy

If, for the first time your partner has said, or for your interest. They laugh, happy or curious, but whatever the answer to your attention. Well, you can gather, is apathy. Is that what happens all the time or only occasionally?

3 Communications

He had a point where you do not want to answer? You may not want to communicate, but you and your partner are in divgaélico wavelengths. Subject to recall that ever before, at least not punse long periods. It is the sound of his voice, like scratching nails on the table?

With all the things that are currently in the world in May, outside forces cause of death, tension in their relationship. May you want to verify that this option