Saturday, April 18, 2009

Dating Tips : Waiting To Call A Woman After The First Date! Does it always Work?

Waiting a few days to call a woman after the first date is the best way to get or attract her.But, there are certain times and situations when waiting to call a woman doesn't work.

If you didn't do anything to raise her interest level during the date, waiting to call her is not going to create any type of attraction inside of her.

Giving her some reasons to actually want to hear from you again otherwise you are just prolonging the time it takes for her to blow you off or reject you is very important.

Another case where waiting to call doesn't work with is with women who are focused on "Finding a Man". Women like this aren't looking for a man, rather a man that they can control. Waiting to call these types of women usually results in them blowing you off or her attempting to regain control by trying to break you in some ways; usually by telling you how wrong you were for waiting so long to call.


Finally, waiting to call a woman doesn't always work with all women but it always works on the type of women that you want and can get if you called earlier.

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Dating Tips : How to Find a Girlfriend - Dating Laws - Emotion

Ladies love guys who can show emotion. Guys hate showing emotion! Isn't it great how life works! Well the bad news is that the men with those good looking gals do show emotion. They can laugh, they can be excited, heck they can even be compassionate when the situation dictates. And none of it is forced or faked. They have no problems trying to find a girlfriends. These guys have discovered that if they open themselves up just slightly, that perceived vulnerability is a major tick from the woman.
Girl will feel more comfortable in the company of a guy who is caring and sensitive. After all, these are all characteristics that women have no fear in showing. Because it is so ingrained into the female psyche, they automatically realise when someone is connecting with them on an emotional level. This is seriously like gold dust. If she believes you have these qualities, in whatever measure, you will become a different 'kind' of man to her. You will become someone that she can relate to, and that she can share with.
Guys hate showing emotion! Unless it's with a bunch of friends watching the game - then you have no inhibitions about kissing anyone on the cheek (regardless of the sex of the person!). You have to take some of that game attitude out with you. Switch it round a little, and make it woman friendly. She won't know the pains you have gone through, but she will love the result! The result will mean that you will have a much better chance of finding a girlfriend.

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Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Dating Tips : Why Some Women Aren't Funny - An Observation by Ahmed Malik and Janet Evans

Mind you, before I begin you should know this is just an observation. But it's also said that anything based on fact can seen as the truth. So I'll just let you all be the judges. Whatever your gender, you must have heard the following from a female friend, enumerating the charms of a new (male) squeeze: "He's quite cute, he's kind, and he knows all kinds of stuff, oh! And he's so funny". (If you are a guy, and you know the man in question, you will often have said to yourself, Funny­­? He wouldn't know a joke if it punched him in the face").However there is something that you absolutely never hear from a male friend who is listing his latest (female) love, interest, charm "she's a real honey, has a life of his own... Interlude for attributes that are none of your business)... and man, does she ever make me laugh?"

Now, why is this case? Why are women, who have the whole male world at their mercy, not funny? Please do not pretend not to know what I am talking about. All right, let's try it the other way. Why are men, taken on average and as a whole, funnier than women? Well for one thing, they had damn well better be. The chief task in life that a man has to perform is that of impressing the opposite sex, and Mother Nature is not so kind to men. In fact, she equips many fellows with very little armament for the struggle. An average man has just one, outside chance; he had better be able to make the lady laugh. Making them laugh has been of the crucial preoccupations of my life. If you can stimulate her to laughter I am talking about that real, out-loud, head-back, deep-throated mirth well, then, you have at least caused her to loosen up and to change her expression.

Women, on the other hand, have no corresponding need to appeal to men in this way. Well most anyway. They already appeal to men, D'uh. Indeed! we now have all the joys of a scientific study, which illuminates the difference.At the Stanford University school of medicine, the grim faced researchers showed 10 men and 10 women, a sample of 70 cartoons and got them to rate them on a "funniness scale." And the results were summarized in Biotech Week:

It was found that men and women share much of the same humor response system; both use to a similar degree, the part of the brain responsible for semantic knowledge and juxtaposition, and the part involved in language processing. But they also found that same brain regions were activated more in women, these included the left prefrontal cortex, suggesting a greater emphasis on language and executive processing in women, and the nucleus accumbens....which is part of the mesolimbic reward central. It gets worse: "Women appeared to have less expectation of a reward, which in this case was the punch line of the cartoon," said the report's authored Allan Reiss. "So when they got to the joke's punch line, they more pleased about it." The report also found that 'women were quicker at identifying materials they considered unfunny."

Slower to get it, more pleased when they do, and swift to locate the funny for this we need the Stanford university school of medicine­­­! And remember, this is women when confronted with humor, but moving swiftly on. This not to say that women are humorless, or cannot make great wits and comedians. And if they did not operate in humor wavelength, then what would the point be of us making them laugh? Wit, after all, is the unfailing symptom of intelligent. Men will laugh at almost anything, often precisely because it is or they are extremely stupid. Women aren't like that. And the wits and comics among them are formidable beyond compare, like lekpasious Bosse and Ellen DeGeneres. I read somewhere on this subject: "the cultural values are male, for a woman to say a man is funny is the equivalent of man saying that a woman is pretty. Also, humor is largely aggressive and pre-emptive, and what more male than that?" In any case, my arguments don't say that there are terrible male comedians. But there are some impressive ladies out their. Most of them, though, when you think about it, are heft or usually mannish. Say the word "poo poo" and almost all men will laugh right away, if only to pass the time. Male humor prefers the laugh to be at someone's expense, and understands that life is quite possibly a joke to begin with and often a joke in extremely poor taste.

Humor is part of the armor-plate with which to resist what is already farcical enough. Were as women would prefer that life be fair, and even sweet, rather than the sordid mess it actually is. In order words, for women, the question of funniness is essentially a secondary one. They are innately aware of a higher calling that is no laughing matter. Where as with a man you may freely say of him that he is a bad driver, or an inefficient worker, and not really hurt him but NEVER say he's not funny, ok?

For men, it is a tragedy that the two things they prize the most, women and humors should be so in tune. But without tragedy there could be no comedy. When this topic was addressed, my aunt said to cheer up, "women get funnier as they get older".

Observation suggests to me that this might indeed be true, but, excuse me, isn't that rather a long time to have to wait?

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Saturday, April 4, 2009

Dating Tips : Controversial Issues in Relationships - Why Do We Cheat? By Ahmed Malik and Janet Evans

Controversial issues in relationships are basically what we treat. We know about some of these issues and also talk about them each passing day. For others, we don't really concern ourselves with them but they are little poisonous issues that might seem deadly at the end of the day. Why do we cheat? Ladies, do not look at men and point accusing fingers at them because this issue affects both sexes.
After patiently scrutinizing and researching this issue, it was clear that this thing called cheating accounts for 70% of break-ups in relationships. Ladies do not want to share their man with any body and this means ladies flocking around him pose an aura of confusion and suspicion with question such as 'who is she?'' Also, from the part of the woman, in the past, they tend to find it a big deal to maintain two or more boy friends although these days it is as if they are born to play on men's intelligence or rather, date more than a man at a time. Some say cheating cannot be helped basically because it seem like it is hereditary or inborn. Others say it is greed, mere greed on the cheater. In the course of my research on the subject, I came across a good analysis of why we cheat. It is derived from a movie titled 'why did I get married'? It bases its argument on the issues of 'want' and 'need'. The following are the exceptions:
In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you need and you will hardly get the other 20% that you want in your relationship. There is always another person [man or woman] that you will meet who will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship, and believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship. But the problem is that you will always end up with having the 20% that you want and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. This mistake is mainly done by woman, letting go of the 80% because of the 20%. Usually , the 20% needed includes money, more outing, and craziness (because good girls love bad boys and bad boys are the ones with flavor and experience) while men attribute the 20% to lack of sex, more sex, present-ability of his lady, dressing and appearance, to mention a few.
Mostly, cheating happens when you start looking for what you don't have. "WOW, this girl in my office is really hot but it's not her features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she also understanding, intelligent, tender. So many things that my spouse is not". Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive, more alluring, more thoughtful, richer, have greater sex appeal... and you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and will look over you more than your spouse ever did. This is because no wife or husband is perfect, because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So, cheating takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing20%. Because your wife or spouse is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling your sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil - cut shirt Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet a big time extrovert who has the makings of a talk show host. But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have or does it look advisable to throw away the 80% that you already have?
Apart from the issue of want and need, distance is also a cause. Some relationships crumble because of distance. When comfort is needed and your spouse is nowhere, when good company is need; when the good and sexy times are a memory and re-living it is a wish, when urges come into place and your spouse is nowhere around to quench the fire... solace will now be found in the person who keeps you in good company in the absence of your boo. Some also put trust as an excuse even in the distance. "Well I don't know what he is doing at the moment wherever he is. So let me enjoy my time" or "only God knows if she is faithful to me alone or she is flirting" are some of the questions that open doors to cheating.
This thing called cheating has eaten into the fabric of relationship that even in some marriages, such still happens. Then where does the beauty of relationship lie? Why does it have to be so? The deed has been done; it is the way forward that needs to be brought forward and quick before more harm is done.
Working on the issue of want and need and having a basis that is more to be lost if the relationship fizzles out might help. Add to your spouse's 80% to make the 100% that represents what you wish to have in your dream relationship having in mind the good times spent together; the unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple, the many adjustments you have made to love the other: the wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers... Cheating sets in when you start looking for what you don't have. Be faithful and thankful for what you already have. Trust more and drill your spouse to know what he/she needs that you lack in your trivial. It is really a need and not a trivia. Be contented with what you have. Share and don't compare yours to others. Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? Oh, they have got more leg room; oh my god their food is so different from ours; their seats recline at an 80 degree angle and they've got personal videos; do you know that there are many first class Passengers who are miserable in first class because they are not riding in a private Lear jet?
If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class, 20/80 or 80/20. you determine your lot in your relationship and life. Enjoy what you have or share and be happy about it because when it is out of your hands....you know the rest!!!
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