Tuesday, April 7, 2009

Dating Tips : Why Some Women Aren't Funny - An Observation by Ahmed Malik and Janet Evans

Mind you, before I begin you should know this is just an observation. But it's also said that anything based on fact can seen as the truth. So I'll just let you all be the judges. Whatever your gender, you must have heard the following from a female friend, enumerating the charms of a new (male) squeeze: "He's quite cute, he's kind, and he knows all kinds of stuff, oh! And he's so funny". (If you are a guy, and you know the man in question, you will often have said to yourself, Funny­­? He wouldn't know a joke if it punched him in the face").However there is something that you absolutely never hear from a male friend who is listing his latest (female) love, interest, charm "she's a real honey, has a life of his own... Interlude for attributes that are none of your business)... and man, does she ever make me laugh?"

Now, why is this case? Why are women, who have the whole male world at their mercy, not funny? Please do not pretend not to know what I am talking about. All right, let's try it the other way. Why are men, taken on average and as a whole, funnier than women? Well for one thing, they had damn well better be. The chief task in life that a man has to perform is that of impressing the opposite sex, and Mother Nature is not so kind to men. In fact, she equips many fellows with very little armament for the struggle. An average man has just one, outside chance; he had better be able to make the lady laugh. Making them laugh has been of the crucial preoccupations of my life. If you can stimulate her to laughter I am talking about that real, out-loud, head-back, deep-throated mirth well, then, you have at least caused her to loosen up and to change her expression.

Women, on the other hand, have no corresponding need to appeal to men in this way. Well most anyway. They already appeal to men, D'uh. Indeed! we now have all the joys of a scientific study, which illuminates the difference.At the Stanford University school of medicine, the grim faced researchers showed 10 men and 10 women, a sample of 70 cartoons and got them to rate them on a "funniness scale." And the results were summarized in Biotech Week:

It was found that men and women share much of the same humor response system; both use to a similar degree, the part of the brain responsible for semantic knowledge and juxtaposition, and the part involved in language processing. But they also found that same brain regions were activated more in women, these included the left prefrontal cortex, suggesting a greater emphasis on language and executive processing in women, and the nucleus accumbens....which is part of the mesolimbic reward central. It gets worse: "Women appeared to have less expectation of a reward, which in this case was the punch line of the cartoon," said the report's authored Allan Reiss. "So when they got to the joke's punch line, they more pleased about it." The report also found that 'women were quicker at identifying materials they considered unfunny."

Slower to get it, more pleased when they do, and swift to locate the funny for this we need the Stanford university school of medicine­­­! And remember, this is women when confronted with humor, but moving swiftly on. This not to say that women are humorless, or cannot make great wits and comedians. And if they did not operate in humor wavelength, then what would the point be of us making them laugh? Wit, after all, is the unfailing symptom of intelligent. Men will laugh at almost anything, often precisely because it is or they are extremely stupid. Women aren't like that. And the wits and comics among them are formidable beyond compare, like lekpasious Bosse and Ellen DeGeneres. I read somewhere on this subject: "the cultural values are male, for a woman to say a man is funny is the equivalent of man saying that a woman is pretty. Also, humor is largely aggressive and pre-emptive, and what more male than that?" In any case, my arguments don't say that there are terrible male comedians. But there are some impressive ladies out their. Most of them, though, when you think about it, are heft or usually mannish. Say the word "poo poo" and almost all men will laugh right away, if only to pass the time. Male humor prefers the laugh to be at someone's expense, and understands that life is quite possibly a joke to begin with and often a joke in extremely poor taste.

Humor is part of the armor-plate with which to resist what is already farcical enough. Were as women would prefer that life be fair, and even sweet, rather than the sordid mess it actually is. In order words, for women, the question of funniness is essentially a secondary one. They are innately aware of a higher calling that is no laughing matter. Where as with a man you may freely say of him that he is a bad driver, or an inefficient worker, and not really hurt him but NEVER say he's not funny, ok?

For men, it is a tragedy that the two things they prize the most, women and humors should be so in tune. But without tragedy there could be no comedy. When this topic was addressed, my aunt said to cheer up, "women get funnier as they get older".

Observation suggests to me that this might indeed be true, but, excuse me, isn't that rather a long time to have to wait?

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