Thursday, January 29, 2009

Your past relationship - Does it Bother your Boyfriend?

What your boyfriend wants to think about is another guy having been with you (whether we're talking about sex or just hooking up). Imagining some other guy getting down with you can literally drive him crazy.
Have you had a worrisome sexual history that's filled with lots of experience? If that is so, your boyfriend might have trouble dealing with this. But this is something that he must accept.
Don't you dare let someone else throw your past at your face or hold it against you. If it's in the past (or only a few months ago), let it stay there, and move on.
He must accept you for all that you are. If he's chosen to be with you...he needs to accept you for all that you are. And that means everything. It doesn't really mean he has to like your sexual history, of course, but it means he can't hold it or use it against you. It's completely unfair for him to want to date you and then start knit-picking about details from your past.
If he's doing this, tell him flat out that he's going to have to accept everything about you if he wants to date you. Let him know he has two choices:
a) Breaking up
b) Staying together. but he can never mention your sexual past ever again. Never. Not even when you two are quarreling.
Learn from your mistakes and move on.The few moments of pleasure that come from sex and hooking up can have a permanent effect on you reputation and self-esteem. If you've chosen to change your "free loving" ways, you're doing the right thing and that's what matters most. On the other hand, if you’ve only had a few hookup and your man is making a major issue about it, you might want to rethink whether you really need to date such a puritanical person.